The Death of a Marriage

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2 Samuel 6:20-23   Then David returned to bless his household. And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, How glorious was the king of Israel to day, who uncovered himself to day in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself! And David said unto Michal, It was before the LORD, which chose me before thy father, and before all his house, to appoint me ruler over the people of the LORD, over Israel: therefore will I play before the LORD. And I will yet be more vile than thus, and will be base in mine own sight: and of the maidservants which thou hast spoken of, of them shall I be had in honour. Therefore Michal the daughter of Saul had no child unto the day of her death.

Victory had been sweet that day. The ark of God had come home from Obededom’s house. No one died on this attempt to bring it home, as did the first time with Uzzah. David headed home and on the way, blessed the people, men and women alike. He was elated that he had made it home with the Ark of the Covenant. The shame of the previous attempt was abated and he wanted all Israel to rejoice in the Lord. Thus, he shared with the people bread, wine, and meat.

Michal, David’s wife and Saul’s daughter, saw the manner and deeds of her husband as he rejoiced in the return of the ark. However, Michal did not share in David’s exuberance. When David had come home to bless those of his house with gifts, Michal met David at the door. 

It was victory day yet Michal expressed disappointment in her husband instead of delight. She expressed criticism to him instead of compliments. She expressed irritations instead of inspiration for her husband. When she should have been rejoicing in her husband’s disposition and deeds, she rejected them. Clearly, this is a repetition of her father’s sin of pride.

There was neither mourning nor funeral that day for as there was for Uzzah. But there was a death; something did die that day when David arrived home. The death was not of a man, but was in the marital relationship of David and Michal. She could have stood with, supported, and celebrated with David, but she did not. She dishonored her husband that day and something died between David and Michal. Michal would not have a child as long as she lived.

Wives, have you let pride hinder your cheerful support of your husband’s accomplishments? Have you discouraged him when you should have encouraged him? Have you pouted before him more than you have praised him? Have you undermined him more than you have undergirded him?  Go to him today and make things right. Do not be content to leave it unattended; fix things today!